How Are You?
Do you realize that when someone asks you how are you all that they really want to hear is just one word: Fine?
When I decided to take charge over my life and make some important changes to become positive, happier and more successful in everything I do, first I had this tendency to try to share my goals with others. But you know what? I realized there is no need to say anything to anybody about it. People don’t like when you make changes.
Loosing weight and telling your friends about is brings kind of jealousy because they feel that you want to look better than them.
Do you remember when one of your friends realized a healthier way of living and all you hear is them converting all of your friends? (Oh my I can go on and share with you story after story how they tried to convert me into all those healthy eating habits) So when you start your diet and exercise journey and you tell them, they’ll shy away. Just because you are ready for change they might not. And quite rightly so – we all hate being preached out and reminded about our deficiency.
As a good advice when you start to incorporate a new change into your life keep it quite, don’t preach, propagate, try to convert, shout from the rooftops or even mention it.
Naturally, you will get a warm glow as you change your diet and your skin becomes healthier. You will feel better and people of course will ask questions like: what are you doing? How are you? You look great. Try to just keep is simple and say – it’s nothing, thanks you are fine, it’s just a great day and because of the sunshine or rain you just feel better or happier or whatever. There is no need to go into detail because that’s not really what people want to know. In fact it’s exactly the opposite of what they want to know.
When people ask you how are you? All they want to hear: fine. Even if you are in the very pits of despair, that’s all they want to hear because, anything more then “fine” requires commitment on their part. And for a casual “How are you?” that’s most certainly not what they want. All they want is Fine and they can be about their business without any further involvement. If you don’t say “fine” but instead unburden yourself, they will back off pretty quickly.
Hopefully, you have your close friends to whom you can unburden yourself and share goals and your dreams, but the causal friends in your life don’t really care about you, so just keep it simple and short. How do I know that most people around you are not interested in you? Hmmm – let’s say – people in general are selfish and interested in themselves only.
I know most of you who read my blog want to see if I will loose that weight, not because of me, but because of you. When I failed you all felt good. Why? More likely many of you too are in the same yoyo diet circle and that’s OK.
So if you follow me and want to loose some weight too, don’t shout from the rooftops just quietly follow me, comment to support each other and let’s do it together. I try not only to share my weight loss struggles and success, but I really try to share my life to connect with my readers and embrace on a life-changing adventure together.
So how are you today? To be honest I am looking for something more than just Fine. I would like to be that friend you can unburden yourself and share honestly your dreams, problems, goals and even your failures.
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I was talking with a friend about this subject last week. Why is it when you meet someone you have not seen for a long time, often the exchange is lite and casual? Why can't we connect with those around us who are facing life as we are, one day at a time. I have tried to have conversations with people and often the rely is oh, really well have a nice day, this is after I have shared that all is not well with my life, day, etc.
To be real is to take a risk and it is important to have people in your life that you can talk with, I mean really talk with and listen and share the ups and the downs of life. I think this is the thing that blocks our way more than anything else. Truth, it is a five letter word but it is what true relationships are built upon.
I too and looking for someone with whom I can have a truthful relationship with on the journey to better health, Maybe we can walk together?
Miah,
I can hear you and relate to your questions.
There could be two main reasons why often people don’t have an open ear:
1. I understand that most people around us have their own burdens (even those who seem to have it all together) and I guess people don’t want to get too involved in others lives. Especially people who are not close to you.
2. Some are plain selfish, don’t care. But I would choose to believe that the first choice is more realistic.
Miah, yes we can walk together. Tell me more about you. Where are you in your journey?
Thanks for reading.